“Out beyond the ideas of wrong doing and right doing there is a field. I’ll meet you there.“ Rumi
Creating Reality in Partnership
Look around you. Everything you see is part of your reality. Some of it is my reality too. But a lot of it is your exclusive reality. The reality you hold in place is by and through Agreements with moms, dads, aunts, uncles, cousins, business partners, associates, colleagues and friends, but mostly by what you and your significant other make real between you. A relationship between two people is known as a dyad. The curious thing is that we almost always make things real within dyads. Homes are most often purchased by a dyad. Dyads save money together, buy cars together and even have kids together, which is probably one of the best ways to actually see how a dyad creates reality.
The actual issue in and with dyads seems to be the quality of the reality created for both parts of the dyad in terms of the closeness of fit between the reality in the minds of each of the participants of the dyad. In other words if one side of the dyad squeezes the toothpaste in the middle and that drives the other side nuts, the first thing in the morning blahs can extend throughout the day. The morning blahs can very easily become the day in and day out just trying to keep it together blues.
The most ironic part of this sad tale is that since the dyad is, by nature, engaged in reality creation fighting about toothpaste tubes or whose fantasy is to be watched right now all become highly forgettable issues which have nothing to do with creating a reality which is enjoyable to the dyad or even to a collection of dyads.
Perhaps it would be more nearly clear to say that a dyad weaves the fabric of their life through their communication with one another. If we were to treat our communication in that manner, it would not really matter what the subject of the communication was as long as the communication itself resolved issues within the dyad allowing each side of the dyad more freedom to experience desired reality as opposed to reality forced upon the dyad.
It should be noted that a dyad consists of two sides. It cannot consist of one side. Most Agreement is held between two people, however. It should also be noted that no Agreement at all can exist in the presence of misleading statements. It may appear that reality has been created in such instances but that reality all too quickly results in chaos. Which is also real.
So, if the reality you’re looking at is not to your liking, perhaps you’d care to examine what you make real within your dyadic relationship. Do you each blame the other for the reality you created together? Do you fight about important issues or for power or rightness? Does that fight about who’s right resolve anything or does it cost resolution? Is that fight even important? Some fights are important but how about that one?
This is the part that we can all ignore but even if it is ignored it still exists. You now know it exists. You could take these ideas and begin to observe your reality and you could become an expert on creating reality through Agreement. Someone has to do it.
So if you want to examine the reality you create within your dyadic relationship and learn some amazingly practical and simple ways to be deliberate about the reality you create, the dyad retreat may be exactly what you’ve been looking for. The retreat takes place over 8 days at our beautiful facility in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico.
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